Esi’s Story

Esi has been fostering for Jay since October 2014 and was recently awarded Jay’s Carer of the Month for May. When we presented Esi with her certificate, we asked her “how did you get into fostering?”

What made you decide to become a foster carer?

“My mum had already been a foster care for about 2/3years and I was helping her with respite care. I enjoyed spending time with her kids and playing a motherly role. I have my own experience of moving around quite a lot, living with other people when I was younger.”

How long did you think about fostering before you applied?

“A couple of years after my mum started fostering, I thought to myself, I could do this but I also thought I had to be married with my own house and children or at least have children of my own first, but after having a chat with my mum and Jay Fostering, I found out anyone could be a foster carer so long as they pass the assessment process.”

Did you have any reservations about fostering before you applied?

“My only reservation, I think, was would the children accept me and would I been able to look after another person on my own full time.”

What did you do before you fostered?

“Before I decided to go ahead with the fostering process, I had just been made redundant from my admin job in a college in Birmingham and I worked part-time in an African restaurant (AGG) in Coventry.”

What skills do you feel that you bring to the role of a foster carer?

“I think from my years of living with other people besides my own family, I have learnt not to judge a book until I have read it. Also, the fact that I can speak other languages besides English, has proven quite helpful particularly with my current placement.”

What is the most enjoyable thing about fostering?

“There’s lot to enjoy about fostering but the fact that I can give advice to a young person on which steps to take and they listen or ask me for advice is quite nice. Also, when they give you a card with a lovely note written inside or when you hear how they describe you to others, can be quite heart melting even if you’ve just had a disagreement.”

What has been the most difficult part of fostering?

“The most difficult part is when the Local Authority have to change the child’s Social Worker and someone different comes into the child’s life; you can see how it affects the children.


What support do you receive from Jay?

“With Jay, we have to attend six core training sessions a year, as well as online training. I see my Supervising Social Worker once every month for supervision at home and attend a support group, which is held once a month for Jay’s foster carers within the same area. My Supervising Social Worker comes to PEP and LAC reviews with me for support and we communicate regularly through e-mail and text – she’s always just a phone call away. During school holidays, Jay Fostering always has events on for both LAC and birth children.”

Would you recommend becoming a foster carer to anyone else?

“Whenever I tell people what I do, I tell them how they can also make an impact on a child’s life, so long as they have a spare bedroom. I have also wanted to be a mother and thanks to Jay I have the opportunity to do so and make an impact in a young person’s life.”

Thank you Esi for your hard work and commitment to fostering – Jay Fostering