Tracy & Ian’s Story

Congratulations to Tracy & Ian who have been awarded Jay Fostering’s ‘Foster Carer of the Month’ for January 2018!

When we presented Tracy with her certificate, we asked her –how did you get into fostering?’

Prior to starting fostering 4 years ago, Tracy had worked in Child Protection for 20 years, and also taught ‘Protective Behaviours’ in schools for a further 5 years. By her own admission, having seen a number of children being removed from their families and placed into foster carer, she “did not like the system” and vowed that one day she would “change it for the better”.

Tracy and Ian were initially concerned about the impact on their own daughter, as well as their wider family, as although Tracy had a lot of experience in working with children and young people, the rest of her family had not. “I had worked with children who had suffered horrendous abuse and were extremely traumatised, and was worried how this might impact my family, in particular my daughter. However, seeing how my daughter has grown and coped with our family fostering makes me wish I’d done it earlier!”

Tracy brings a therapeutic approach to fostering, and feels “getting down on a level” with children and young people helps her to understand how they might be feeling. “Children are often labelled for being in care which is helpful and wrong. They need a supportive, loving and understanding environment in order to thrive”.

Fostering can be difficult at times, especially when working with children who have complex behavioural issues. “My biggest frustration though, is when people think that one solution fits all. Children are individuals, and have their own individual story which means they need a level of care which is unique and tailored to them”. For Tracy the best part of fostering is “seeing children progress as individuals and watching them grow in confidence. Sometimes the smallest things mean the most to them, such as the smile on their faces on Christmas morning.”

Tracy and Ian are supported by their Supervising Social Worker who has been particularly helpful when they are looking after challenging children. “I feel really supported by my Social Worker, and whenever there have been problems, they have been sorted very quickly.” The training is “excellent” and this allows Tracy and Ian to enhance their skills as foster carers even further.

“Fostering has many ups and downs, however it is such a rewarding vocation. When you think of the difference you are making to children’s lives – it’s all worth it!”

On behalf of everyone at Jay Fostering, well done and thank you for your dedication to children and young people and congratulations on your award – thoroughly deserved!

Find out more about what’s involved in becoming a foster carer by calling us today on 0800 0443 789 or email

Foster Carers and HMRC

For anybody who is considering becoming a foster carer, and for those that are already fostering, you have been invited to take part in a free webinar hosted by HM Revenue and Customs (HMRC). The webinar aims to help you understand tax responsibilities and any National Insurance issues that may arise for a self-employed foster carer.

The free, hour-long webinar will take place at 11am on the 14th February and will include an interactive question and answer session.

The webinar can be accessed from all laptops, iPads, iPhones or tablets, provided you have internet access.

Spaces are limited and reservations are necessary.
To register, please visit HMRC Foster Carers Registration

Saying ‘Goodbye’ To A Foster Child

The time between the beginning and the end of a placement with a foster child can feel like no time at all. Saying goodbye can be one of the biggest challenges faced by foster carers, as well as for the young people in their care.

Having looked after a person for a period of time, you celebrate their successes, are a shoulder to cry on and you watch them grow up. They become a substantial part of your family.

The Importance of Staying Positive

Whatever the reasons for the departure, it’s normal for foster carers to experience a range of emotions when a child leaves their home. It’s important to realise that having stayed with you for a period of time will have benefited their lives for the better.

If they’re an older teenager and they’re now ready to live independently, you will have probably played the part of an important role model. You would have helped teach them valuable life skills such as learning to cook, clean and manage budgets in preparation for them to live their life on their own.

For younger children who move onto more long-term, permanent placements, it’s important to remember that moving on is in their best interests as it’s eventually helping towards placing them with their ‘forever family’.

Dealing with Grief

Losing a foster child is likely to provoke feelings of grief, so give yourself time to recover and also to celebrate the journey you’ve had together. Being open about these feelings with friend, family and other foster carers will help you to heal.

How We Can Help Foster Carers

If you are a foster carer or are considering becoming a foster carer, we can provide a range of training on how to deal with foster children moving on. Contact our team for more information by clicking here.

Fostering February 2018

Don’t rule yourself out…find out!

This month we will be showing our support for Fostering February by starting conversations about fostering both online and offline!

What is Fostering February?

Fostering February is a month dedicated to raising awareness about the facts of becoming a foster carer and aims to dispel some of the myths and misconceptions which surround it.

It gives an invaluable opportunity to people who are considering becoming a foster carer to have their questions and concerns addressed.

Have you ever thought about becoming a foster carer, but immediately ruled it out?

“I’m in a same sex relationship so I won’t be allowed to foster”
“I am disabled so I won’t be allowed to foster”
“I don’t have a driving license so I won’t be allowed to foster”

Do any of these statements sound familiar?

There are lots of different family living situations that can allow for a foster child which are often assumed can’t. Be sure to find out before making assumptions. For example, your sexual orientation won’t affect whether you are allowed to become a foster carer. The most important factor is that the children feel safe and loved and importantly are properly looked after.

How can you get involved in Fostering February 2018?

Whether you are considering becoming a foster carer or just want to help raise awareness, there are plenty of ways for you to get involved with Fostering February 2018. Take a look at their website here.

If you think you could help a child, please register your interest by clicking here and a member of our friendly team will be in touch.